Generation Y often struggles with relationships. It seems to be increasingly difficult to not only come across a solid relationship, but to find someone worthwhile dating in the first place.

Sure, anyone can drop their standards faster than a prom dress and find someone to have some fun with, but what about becoming a happy couple?

Here are 6 reasons why you’re still single.

You’re still in your party phase.

This is the time that you should be single. But, on top of that, looking for love ‘up in da club’ is a recipe for disaster in the first place. Yes I know, your friend’s cousin’s babysitter’s aunt met a woman at Starbucks who’s daughter grinded up on some guy who grunted his number at her, and they got married.

It happens – but, for the most part, the meat-market nature of nightlife is not where you should expect to find a solid relationship.

You’re dying to be with someone. Anyone.

It’s one thing to want to find someone to share happy times with, but it’s a whole other thing to want to find anyone to share happy times with. If you show interest in anybody who shows interest in you just because someone is finally paying attention – it will never last.

How can you expect someone to respect you when you don’t show them that you respect yourself?

Desperation is not attractive and you’ll sacrifice your dignity for a temporary high. Hold out for the right one, it will be worth it.

You hate men.

Yes – all men suck, right? At least, that’s what every other Facebook status you post says. Your vast life experience with ‘all men’ has given you the endless knowledge to proclaim that every one of them is useless…and this is supposed to attract the right one to you…how?

Next.

Self-sacrifice isn’t your thing.

Relationships are about selflessness. Compromise. Making someone else happy. If you’re in a phase in your life where you’re completely focused on yourself, you can’t expect a (decent) guy to chase you around like a puppy dog. It’s a two way street.

It doesn’t matter how generous or giving a man is, relationships are a team, and there is no “I” in team, remember?

You ‘don’t need no man.’

The ultra-independent woman is upon us. I love women who are self-sufficient, live their own lives, and have their own ambitions. That being said…as men, we understand you don’t need us. That’s not the point of a relationship.

We want you to want us, and if you’re consistently adamant that you have absolutely no desire to have a man in your life – rest assured, you’ll get what you want.

You…get around.

Word travels. Enough said.

Nobody likes to fight an uphill battle. It takes a certain type of woman to attract (and keep) a mature, self-respecting man.

Source: by James Michael Sama · in Dating & Relationships. ·